Does your boyfriend or girlfriend get really mad sometimes, or jealous, or possessive? Does he or she keep you away from your friends or family, or make you do things you don’t want to?
If your answer is yes, then you might be in an abusive relationship. Maybe you’re telling yourself that it’s normal, or you did something to provoke him or her … but actually, if your boyfriend or girlfriend makes you uncomfortable or scared, then the answer is clear. You’re not in a healthy relationship.
How do I Know?
Abusive behaviors can happen in any relationship, and you don’t have to be sexually active in order to be abused. There are four types of unhealthy behaviors: physical violence, sexual violence, stalking and psychological aggression … and each one is equally as bad as the others. Warning signs for these behaviors include:
- Checking your phone without permission
- Constantly putting you down
- Extreme jealousy or insecurity
- Explosive temper
- Isolating you from family or friends
- Physically hurting you in anyway
- Telling you what to do
- Forcing you to have sex
Don’t tell yourself, “It’s no big deal,” because it is. If your boyfriend or girlfriend treats you badly then you need to safely get out of that relationship
You’re Not Alone
Nearly 1.5 million high school students find themselves in an abusive relationship each year. And once you’re in that relationship, sometimes you can feel stuck, or like you won’t find anyone better. It’s not true! No matter what your boyfriend or girlfriend tells you, you do not deserve to be treated badly. You’re going to do awesome things in the future, but you can’t do it with him or her by your side.
You can get out of your abusive relationship. There are plenty of people who can help you. If you or a loved one is in an abusive relationship, get help! Call 1-866-331-9474 or text “loveis” to 22522.
If you’d rather speak to someone in person, visit us at the Teen Health Center and we’ll help you.
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