How do I know when I’m really ready to have sex?

The appropriate time to have sex is different for everyone. Sex is a big decision that can permanently impact your life.

Sex is not just a physical act, it can be emotional too. Sex is very intimate, which means it’s private or closely personal. It’s normal to have strong sexual feelings for someone but that does not always mean you have to act on them. There are times when you can feel physically ready for sex but not be in the right relationship.

Because sex is emotionally powerful, it’s easy to get hurt. Sex should only be a part of a relationship where other important things such as trust, mutual respect and caring also exist. You must always remember that sex can also have a downside. It can lead to unplanned pregnancy,  sexually transmitted diseases (STD) or both.

Here are a few questions to ask yourself:

  • Are you doing this because you want to and not because your partner wants to?
  • Do all your friends seem to be having sex, so you feel you should be too?
  • Is someone pressuring you to have sex?
  • Have you talked to a trusted adult?

The decisions to have sex is a big one. There is no perfect moment when you will know that you’re ready for sex. It is a complicated and personal decision. It’s about knowing and doing what’s best for you.

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